Becoming a new mom is one of the most rewarding experiences in life, but it also comes with unexpected challenges. People rarely repair you for the downsides which can make you feel underprepared. From sleepless nights to emotional highs and lows, parenting is a rollercoaster. Here are 7 parenting struggles new moms face that aren’t always part of the conversation but should be.
1. The Reality of Sleep Deprivation
People always talk about how little sleep you’ll get when your baby arrives. While it could be annoying for someone to say, I don’t think new moms know how true the statement is. New moms are often unprepared for how little sleep they’ll get in those early months. It eats at you the longer you go without making you cranky. Make a plan before birth that accounts for how you’re going to catch rest breaks.
2. The Emotional Strain of Baby Blues
Along with sleep deprivation, people also warn about the baby blues. Many mothers experience postpartum depression. These intense emotions can be overwhelming for a new mom making it difficult to adjust to life with a newborn. It’s important to communicate these fillings to your doctor if you need help.
3. Breastfeeding Challenges No One Talks About
Despite how natural it seems, breastfeeding can be physically and emotionally demanding for new moms. There is a need to be on a constant feeding schedule not only because your baby needs nutrition, but not emptying the breast could become a medical emergency. Be ready for your child to use you as a human pacifier at times when they’re not hungry and aware of how painful it can get. You can prepare by making sure you have healing ointment, lactation support, and a feeding schedule that works well for you and your baby. Also, don’t be scared to pump if that works better for you.
4. The Pressure to “Do It All”
Being a mother comes with countless responsibilities and the desire to excel in all aspects of parenting. However, it’s crucial to recognize that even supermoms have limitations. The pressure to juggle everything can lead to burnout. Instead of attempting to tackle every single task that comes to mind, prioritize what’s essential and manageable. Focus on what you can accomplish now, and leave the rest for later. By setting realistic expectations, you’ll avoid feeling overwhelmed and maintain a healthy balance in your life.
5. Body Changes and Postpartum Recovery
As our child is growing within us, our body changes. Most people embrace the look but want that snap back after it’s over. Just remember that the body undergoes significant changes after childbirth, and recovery can take longer than many expect. Be patient and kind to yourself. Eat right, exercise as much as you feel comfortable with, and eventually you will get back to where you were before baby.
6. Dealing with Unsolicited Advice
As a new mom, you’re going to get all types of advice from experienced parents. Some of it is going to be useful, and some is going to be outdated. Be prepared to be bombarded with advice from well-meaning family and friends. It can be an overwhelming experience however, make sure you know which direction you want to go with your parenting and stand firm in setting boundaries and expectations.
7. The Loneliness of New Motherhood
Motherhood can be an isolating experience. This is especially true when new moms feel they have no one to share their experiences with. If you had a village before motherhood, lean into them, even if some of them may not be parents. If you find that you have no village, or your friends have backed away, find a new source of support. Join a mom walking club or meetup group in your area. They may become your new support system.
You Don’t Have to Feel Alone
While nothing can fully prepare you for the journey of motherhood, knowing the common struggles that come with it can make you feel less alone. Remember, these challenges are temporary, and with time and support, they become easier to manage. You can do this!