1. Set Up a Mini Indoor Obstacle Course

Obstacle courses are fun and you can entertain a toddler for an entire day by creating one. I’ve transformed my living room into an adventure zone using pillows, cushions, and furniture. Direct them to crawl under chairs, jump over pillows, or climb onto the couch. Doing this will help them burn some energy and keep them occupied while you look on from the sidelines.

2. Hand Them a Mystery Box

The idea of a “mystery box” is something any toddler would be interested in. Create a “mystery box” filled with household items and toys for them to explore. You might consider including things like a whisk, plastic cups, ribbons, or other items from around the house. Discovering the different textures and shapes will keep your toddler’s interest. You can also encourage them to find creative ways to use the items in the box, sparking their creativity. Best of all, you don’t have to buy anything new. Just grab things you already have around.

3. Play an Educational Video or Show

Honestly, screen time can be a lifesaver on those days when you’re low on energy. Look for educational videos or shows like Ms. Rachel. There are tons of toddler-friendly options out there. You can let them watch their favorite show while you kick back and relax. Just remember to keep screen time within recommended limits.

4. Engage Them in Water Play

My toddler loves anything to do with water and it can be a fun, low-energy way to keep her entertained. You can fill up a shallow basin or sink with water. Add some cups, spoons, and floating toys. Then just let them splash around. Of course, you should supervise them if they are around water, but it’s still something you can do without having to spend too much brain power. Cleanup is also minimal, so it’s great when you’re tired.

5. Give Them a Coloring or Sticker Book

Coloring and sticker books are two of my toddler’s favorite things. This allows them to be creative and you don’t have to be actively involved. Just let them decorate the paper, color the pages, and explore. You can sit back and watch. Pro tip though: use washable markers or crayons to save yourself any heartache.

6. Build a Blanket Fort Together

Blanket forts are a blast, especially if it is a rainy day. I’m always feeling low energy when the weather is bad but, of course, my toddler is bouncing off the walls wanting to go outside. Building a cozy blanket fort can be a great way to pass the time. You can even join them inside for a quiet snuggle session or story time. This simple activity feels magical to toddlers and doesn’t require much effort on your part.

7. Give Them a Simple Task or Job

Toddlers love to help. Giving them a job to do can help them feel useful and like they have a purpose. Ask them to sort socks, put toys away, or clean up. These tasks not only entertain but also teach responsibility and problem-solving skills. Plus, it can help you check a few things off your to-do list while they feel accomplished.

Making the Most of Low-Energy Days

Having to put on a show for your toddler when you are dragging isn’t always easy. These simple activities can keep them entertained while you soak up some downtime. Remember, a little effort can go a long way. Take a deep breath and try these tips the next time exhaustion strikes.

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1. Japan: Teaching Independence Early

You would never send your four-year-old out to run an errand on their own. In Japan, it’s not uncommon. Parents often encourage their kids to become independent at a very young age. Children as young as three or four years old are sent out to run errands. Elementary-age children often walk to and from school on their own. Public safety and a culture of trust make this practice possible, allowing kids to navigate the world with confidence. The parents believe that allowing their kids to have this freedom early on teaches responsibility and independence, ultimately creating self-reliant adults.

2. Sweden: Prioritizing Outdoor Play

In Nordic countries, there is a saying that goes, “There’s no such thing as bad weather, only bad clothing.” That rings true in Sweden when it comes to parenting styles. Swedish parents embrace the concept of “friluftsliv,” which translates to “open-air living.” Most children spend a lot of time outside and preschools often hold classes entirely outside. Many parents believe that playing outside helps foster creativity, resilience, and social skills.

3. Kenya: The Power of Community

In Kenya, childrearing is often seen as a communal task and not something parents have to face alone. They take the saying, “It takes a village” to a new level. Multiple people, including extended family and neighbors, have a hand in raising the children in their community. Parents also rely on oral traditions, storytelling, and songs to teach moral values and life lessons. It is still somewhere they believe that children should be seen and not heard. However, the total approach to parenting within the community provides children with a strong sense of belonging and they grow to trust the people around them.

4. France: Cultivating Patience and Politeness

French parents tend to focus on teaching their children patience and manners early on in life. Young children are expected to sit through a multi-course dinner without any complaints. Boundaries are set early on so that children know what is acceptable and what is not. Many French parents also practice “The Pause,” which means waiting a few minutes before stepping in to calm their child down. They believe this helps with self-soothing.

5. Inuit Communities: Gentle Discipline

Inuit communities in Canada are some of the first to use “gentle parenting.” Many parents in these communities avoid yelling at their kids. Instead, they practice a uniquely gentle approach to discipline to teach self-control and regulation. By maintaining a calm demeanor, Inuit parents believe they are teaching their children to also remain calm. Overall, they focus on guidance rather than punishment and lead by example.

6. China: Education and Hard Work

Chinese parents often applaud hard work and discipline. While they value talent, they are much more likely to praise hard work. Studies have shown that people are more likely to work harder if they believe that their hard work is key to achievement. Chinese parents also hammer home the fact that they believe education is the key to success. The “Tiger Parenting” style is both praised and criticized for its high expectations and rigorous demands. Despite criticisms, this parenting style helps kids develop a strong work ethic.

7. Italy: Family as the Center

In Italian families, children are raised with a strong focus on close bonds. They will often live with extended family members (grandparents, aunts, uncles). Everyone will sit around the table to eat together and food is often a way they bond. Grandparents also typically take an active role in raising children. This helps them appreciate their culture and upbringing. Overall, Italian parents encourage a relaxed and affectionate approach, valuing emotional expression over rigid rules. This leads children to grow up feeling connected to their roots and to have a deep bond with their families.

8. Germany: Encouraging Freedom with Boundaries

The typical German parenting style focuses on independence. Like Japan, many children are encouraged to be independent at a young age. Schools in Germany emphasize “self-organized learning,” which gives children the freedom to manage their own tasks. Kindergartens in the country also frequently have a space where kids can play with minimal supervision. From a young age, kids are also taught the value of being punctual, responsible, and respectful. This balanced approach fosters confidence while ensuring a sense of discipline. German parenting reflects a harmonious mix of freedom and accountability.

Lessons from Around the World

Looking at these eight parenting styles from around the world reveals some of the diverse ways families nurture their children. Some parents emphasize independence, while others focus on family. It goes to show that there is no one-size-fits-all formula for parenting. You might even consider borrowing some elements from different cultures to enrich your own parenting strategies. At the end of the day, every parent wants the same thing: happy, capable, and compassionate children.

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1. Set Clear Priorities

It’s extremely important to set clear priorities. Take time to consider what matters most to you and allocate your time accordingly. You might find that work deadlines and family commitments overlap. By communicating your priorities to your employer and family members, you are more likely to get their support. Be clear about what is and isn’t negotiable. This will help you avoid unnecessary stress. Remember, work-life balance isn’t about doing everything. You should only focus on what truly matters to you.

2. Embrace Flexible Work Options

At this point in my life, I won’t work a job that doesn’t offer flexibility. Being able to work when I want and where I want allows me to better split my time between the kids and my job. Think about talking with your employer about the options available to you. You might be able to shift your working hours to better accommodate the needs of your family or work from home when your kids are sick. In the end, flexibility can be a game-changer for working parents.

3. Create a Family Calendar

I have a calendar where I keep track of everything going on. It lists play dates, doctor’s appointments, work meetings, school activities, and family events. We keep it on a shared Google Calendar as well as a physical copy on the fridge. This helps everyone stay up to date on what’s going on. It also makes it easy to see where things might overlap so that you can reschedule or plan accordingly.

4. Delegate Tasks

It’s easy to feel like you have to do everything yourself, but that’s not the case. Delegate some things to your partner or even coworkers to alleviate some of your stress. Talk to your partner about how they can better support you. Collaborate with team members at work to divide responsibilities in an effective manner. You might also consider hiring help, like a babysitter or clearing service. This allows you to focus on your priorities more.

5. Make Time for Yourself

Self-care often takes a backseat when you are a working parent. It’s crucial to make time for yourself, even if it’s just 15 minutes a day. Take the time to do something you enjoy. Ultimately, caring for your own physical and mental health will put you in a better position to be more present for your family and your job.

6. Set Boundaries

Just like setting priorities is important, setting boundaries is vital as well. Make sure that you have communicated your work hours with your employer and stick to them. Unless an emergency comes up, you shouldn’t be answering work emails or phone calls during family time. You should also talk to your family about respecting your work commitments. These boundaries will help you make sure that neither work nor parenting takes up all your time.

7. Plan Quality Family Time

I’ll always say that quality time is the best way to ensure your family is getting the most from you. It will also help ease your guilt if you’re feeling down about how much you’ve been working. Plan regular activities like movie nights or game nights. Make it a priority to be present during these times and don’t do anything work-related. Quality over quantity really matters. So, make the most of the time you do have.

8. Learn to Say No

It’s important to be able to say no when you are trying to maintain a balance. Don’t overcommit to tasks or events that don’t align with your priorities. Politely decline extra work assignments or social invitations when your plate is already full. This will help you protect your time and focus on what really matters.

9. Seek Support

Finding a support system as a parent can be challenging, but it’s important. Reach out to family, friends, and parenting groups for support. Chances are, there is someone out there who has been in a similar situation. Listening to their experiences and advice can be reassuring. You might also consider seeking professional help, such as counseling or coaching. These tools can help you find better ways to cope with your stress.

Striving for Harmony

At the end of the day, there is no handbook to tell you how to best balance work and parenting. It’s an ongoing process that requires adaptability and patience. Following these guidelines can help you establish a routine that works for you and your family.

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1. “Your Child Is Just Average”

No parent wants to hear that their child is “average.” Every kid has their own unique talents. Dismissing their child’s specific talents and calling them ordinary can feel disheartening to a parent. Instead, teachers should focus on a kid’s strengths rather than slapping a label on them. When a parent knows their child has potential, they will feel more empowered to support their growth.

2. “They’re Not Working Hard Enough”

Implying that someone’s child isn’t trying hard enough can come off as accusatory. Parents probably see their kids working hard at home and feel like the teacher isn’t seeing the full picture. Additionally, there are factors like learning styles, external stressors, and classroom dynamics that can all come into play as well. Teachers will do better to suggest actionable strategies for the child to improve.

3. “They Need to Be More Like Their Peers”

You shouldn’t ever compare a child to their peers. It can be offensive and harmful. Every kid is going to develop at their own pace. Sometimes, this kind of comment will make parents feel like their child is being judged. It can also add pressure to the child and lead to unnecessary stress.

4. “Your Child Is a Distraction in Class”

Usually, hearing that their child is disruptive feels like a critique for many parents. Behavior is absolutely important, but framing the child as the problem can feel harsh. There might be underlying factors that need to be addressed, such as boredom, unmet needs, or social challenges. Teachers should try to reframe the conversation and focus on solutions rather than making them feel blamed.

5. “I Don’t Think They’re Cut Out for This Subject”

This is another comment that will make a parent feel like you’re trying to put their child in a box. It can also be extremely discouraging. Parents want to believe that their child can improve in any area, given the right support. Any struggle in an academic setting should be looked at as an opportunity for growth and teachers should offer resources or strategies for improvement.

6. “This Is Just How They Are”

Children are constantly evolving and growing. Comments like this undermine their potential for growth. It is always a good idea for teachers to keep in mind that a child’s behavior can be different from other environments, especially their behavior at home. As a parent, it’s important to hear that teachers believe in their children’s ability to adapt and grow.

7. “They Should Be Doing This by Now”

Milestones and benchmarks can vary. Hearing that your child is “behind” is nothing any parent wants to hear. It can feel like a judgment and cause a lot of anxiety. That said, teachers should label these as areas to work on and offer guidance rather than pushing guilt. This helps keep the conversation positive.

8. “I Know What’s Best for Your Child”

No parent wants to hear someone else knows what’s best for their kid. This comment is a fast way to alienate parents in a conversation. Oftentimes, they feel they know their children best and they want to be heard in the conversation when it comes to their child’s education. Rather than stating you know what’s best, it’s a good idea to have collaboration between teachers and parents for the best outcome.

Building a Bridge of Understanding

Most of the time, parents and teachers share a common goal of their child’s success. However, knowing how to communicate with each other can impact how effective the parent-teacher relationship is. Together, parents and teachers can build a supportive environment that helps every child thrive.

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1. The State of The World

The US maternal mortality rate is much higher than most other high-income countries. Some women are scared to have a child with the current state of the world. Beyond healthcare concerns, many are concerned about climate change. 84% of 10,000 people ages 16 to 25 years old across 10 countries were either moderately or extremely worried about climate change, according to a 2021 survey published in the Lancet Planet Health. Some feel that bringing a child into this environment is selfish. Many also are very concerned about school safety. In 2021, the number of gun-related deaths of children had increased by 107% since 2013. 

2. Not Being Able to Afford a Child

In a large metro area of the United States, raising a child costs about $25,181 per year. A LendingTree study revealed that the cost of raising a small child jumped nearly 20% in a six-year time span. For some, this just isn’t feasible. Wages for millennials have stagnated and many carry significant debt.

3. Infertility or Other Medical Reasons

You may not be aware of infertility challenges or medical issues that your children are facing. Not everyone is open about this sensitive topic. They may want children but are struggling. Be kind when broaching the subject of grandkids because you might not know the whole story.

4. Focus on Other Things

About one in five who say they don’t want children cite other factors like focusing on their career. Especially for women, it can be challenging to build a career and still feel like there is time to have children. There’s a growing sentiment that you can’t have it all. Many people feel like they have to choose, and children just aren’t a top priority.

5. Not Wanting to Be a Bad Parent

Millennials have often been called the anxious generation. Studies show that about 12% of millennials have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. Having a child is one of the most stressful things. Especially today when everyone has an opinion on parenting, some millennials are deciding that they don’t want to be parents.

6. Little Support for New Parents

In the United States, there is little support for new parents. The cost of childcare is high. Parents barely get adequate maternity or paternity leave. In many other countries, women can take up to a year or more of maternity leave. Additionally in many countries, like Finland, the government gives every new parent a baby box full of supplies. The Department of Health and Human Services currently launched a pilot program to provide supplies to new parents. They have received requests for more than 1 million diapers so far. If it takes a village to raise a child, the US is far from doing its part.

7. Haven’t Found The Right Partner

According to Pew Research, 33% of people who don’t want children say that they haven’t found the right partner. While having a partner isn’t a prerequisite to having a child, some people want to experience this life-changing event with a partner. Dating today is harder than ever, so finding a suitable partner can be a tall order.

Respecting Their Decisions

There is a sense of grief for you and your children when the decision is made to not have children. However, this is your children’s decision, and probably won’t change. The best course of action is to support your children in whatever they decide. Pressure from you will only strain the relationship. If you are mourning the loss of not being a grandparent, try and find ways to surround yourself with young children. Perhaps you can volunteer to tutor at a local library or help out at an after-school program at a Boy’s and Girl’s Club. While this won’t replace your longing for grandchildren, it can give you purpose and fulfillment.

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1. Stay Calm and Collected

The first thing you need to remember is to stay calm. If you blow up, it will only fuel the fire. It’s important to remember they’re just kids. They don’t know how to express their emotions properly. Staying calm not only sets a good example, but it helps you avoid escalating the situation.

2. Acknowledge Their Feelings

Children need to feel heard, even if they are throwing a crazy tantrum. I always try to validate their feelings by telling them I understand. Say something like, “I know you’re upset” or “I understand you’re frustrated.” Taking the time to acknowledge their emotions doesn’t mean you agree with what they’re doing, but it shows empathy. When they feel like they are understood, they will likely be more open to calming down.

3. Set Clear and Consistent Boundaries

As a parent, boundaries are important. You need to be consistent in the boundaries you set because tantrums can often stem from unclear expectations. I do what I can to make sure my children know what’s acceptable and what’s not. Setting limits, such as “We don’t hit” or “We speak kindly,” gives them a framework for acceptable behavior. Be consistent in the rules you lay down. Mixed messages will only lead to confusion, making them more prone to tantrums and outbursts.

4. Redirect Their Attention

Redirecting their attention is a good way to diffuse a situation that’s out of your control. You can try to grab their attention with something more positive or engaging, such as a game or activity. For instance, if they’re upset because they can’t have a toy, I suggest we go read a favorite book or build with blocks. This often allows me to pull them out of the tantrum before it really takes off.

5. Teach Them Coping Skills

Coping skills are one of the most important things you’ll teach your kids. They don’t naturally know how to handle the big emotions they have. So, you should take the time to teach your children healthy ways to cope. I’ve focused on age-appropriate things like counting to ten, deep breathing or hugging themselves when they feel big emotions. We also practice these skills during calm moments so they know how to use them when they feel upset. It’s empowering for them to be able to use these skills to calm themselves down and, in the end, it’s rewarding for me to see them use something I taught them.

6. Pick Battles Wisely

Some things just aren’t worth the fight. As a parent, it’s important to choose your battles wisely. If a tantrum is about something small, you might just want to let it go to avoid unnecessary conflict. Mismatched clothes or bringing an extra toy along isn’t the end of the world. Sometimes allowing it will help keep the peace. Being flexible is key to keeping your days calmer and tantrums more manageable.

7. Use Positive Reinforcement

Positive reinforcement will help you reduce future tantrums. If they are handling their emotions well, give them praise for doing so. I’ll say something like, “I’m so proud of how you stayed calm” or “Thank you for using your words.” Recognizing their efforts will help reinforce good behavior, teaching them that calmness and communication are rewarded.

Embracing Patience and Progress

Tantrums aren’t easy by any means. However, with the right strategies, you can create a calmer environment for your kids. Keep these tips in mind when it comes to handling your kids’ emotions. Sometimes, we all just need to take a deep breath and remember what’s important.

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1. “There is no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one.”

Jill Churchill first said this and I see it quoted in mom groups all the time. Every mother feels pressure to be the “perfect mom.” In today’s world, where social media plays a huge role in our lives, it’s easy to see someone else as “perfect” and yourself as less than. When it comes down to it, good parenting isn’t about achieving perfection. It’s about showing up for your kids in ways that really matter.

2. “The days are long, but the years are short.”

“The days are long, but the years are short” is something Gretchen Rubin said that really stuck with me. Some days really seem neverending, especially if you are dealing with tantrums or sick kids. However, the years really seem to fly by. Before you know it you have a one-year-old, two-year-old, and so on. This quote has reminded me about how important it is to slow down and really soak up the small details. Before you know it, your little kids won’t be so little anymore.

3. “Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.”

It is believed that C.S. Lewis said this quote, but some people attribute it to Dr. John Trainer as well. No matter who said it, it’s a great reminder about achieving balance in life. It’s really easy to get caught up in all of the “things” in life. Ultimately, my biggest purpose here in this world is to be a mother. My children need my attention to grow into confident people. This quote is a good reminder of where my priorities need to be.

4. “Motherhood: All love begins and ends there.”

Robert Browning’s poetic words capture the profound impact of a mother’s love. The first time you hold your child after giving birth is life-changing. Motherhood becomes an all-encompassing experience of love that changes you forever. It is also the point where your child learns about unconditional love. Every decision you make, every action you take, is rooted in love for your child. It’s a great reminder to keep love at the center of everything you do as a mom.

5. “To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.”

This quote is often attributed to Barbara Johnson and it serves as a reminder about the importance of being present. I’ve seen many people talk about not remembering any of the gifts they got or things they had. In the end, it is the beautiful memories made that really stick with you through life. It’s easy to prioritize getting things done over quality time, but it is crucial to make sure your presence is felt. This ensures that your children will carry your love and lessons forever.

6. “Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be.”

David Bly once said this and it is a powerful reminder that your actions and behavior have a profound impact on your kids. Children learn by example and if you want them to grow up to be a kind, resilient human being, you have to embody these traits yourself. I strive to continually improve myself and model qualities I’d like to see in my kids. Remember, it’s not about being perfect. It’s just about doing the best that you can.

Embracing the Wisdom in Motherhood

Each of these six quotes has spoken to me during my parenting journey. Being a mother is often complicated. There are a lot of challenges, but there is also a lot of joy. Learning to step back, embrace the small moments, and strive to be the best mom I can be has been humbling. There are truly infinite ways to be a great mother and each of these quotes shows that.

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1. “You Don’t Understand Me”

Telling your parents they don’t understand you can come off as dismissive. Even if you feel like you’re being misunderstood, many parents probably feel like they’ve been through similar experiences as to what you’re going through. This statement can make them feel alienated and hurt. Rather than saying this, try to explain your point of view and have an open conversation.

2. “I Wish I Had Different Parents”

This is something many children might say to their parents when they are younger, but it can have a lasting impact on your relationship. No matter how frustrated you are in the moment, you should never say this. If you are going through something difficult, try to express your feelings in a more constructive way instead of just trying to hurt their feelings.

3. “You Ruined My Life”

“You ruined my life” is another extremely damaging statement. This might be a reflexive utterance during a stressful time, but it can be really hurtful. Oftentimes, it’s also unfair to pin everything on your parents, especially if they were doing the best they could. Every parent makes mistakes. So, rather than trying to place blame on them, try to give them ideas on how they can better support you.

4. “Why Can’t You Be Like Other Parents?”

Comparing your parents to others will make them feel like they aren’t good enough. It’s hurtful because it can create a sense of inadequacy. Every family and every set of parents operates in a different manner. Your parents have their own strengths and weaknesses. If you find you need more support from them in certain areas, communicate with them instead of shaming them.

5. “It’s My Life, Not Yours”

Your life decisions are your own, but saying this to your parents can make them feel like you are dismissing their concerns. Most of the time, your parents have your best interests at heart. Saying this will make them feel like you don’t value their input. Take time to listen to their advice, even if you don’t agree with it. This will show them that you respect them and it can also provide you with valuable insights that could potentially benefit you in the long run.

6. “You’re Overreacting”

There won’t be a moment in your life when your parents aren’t concerned about you. Dismissing their concerns as overreactions can lead to arguments and sour feelings. Rather than saying this, try to express your point of view while showing empathy for their concerns. Maintaining open communication can go a long way in fostering mutual respect and understanding.

7. “I Don’t Need Your Help”

Turning down help from your parents isn’t necessarily wrong, but how you tell them can make a huge difference. This phrase can make them feel unneeded and unvalued. They simply want to be there for you. If you want to handle something on your own, that’s fine. But you need to find a way to explain it in a kind way. Thank them for offering and tell them way you’d like to proceed on your own.

8. “You Always/Never Do This”

Absolutes like “always” or “never” can feel like you are judging your parents. They are also likely exaggerations. Instead, you should focus on specific actions or behaviors that bother you. This makes communication more clear and helps you avoid making them feel like they are being attached.

9. “You Don’t Respect My Privacy”

Privacy and boundaries are important in any relationship. However, accusing your parents of disrespect can increase tension. Sometimes your parents might overstep without even realizing it. So, try to set clear boundaries and be respectful. This will help you establish a dialogue about privacy without offending them. Healthy communication on this topic can lead to a stronger foundation of trust and mutual respect.

Words Matter in Family Relationships

The words you choose really matter when you are speaking to your parents and other people in your family. Be mindful of what you say. Be patient and respectful. Doing so can help you create a more positive dynamic with your parents.

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1. Compassion: The Foundation of Nurturing

Great mothers are compassionate. They are able to connect with their children’s needs and show empathy, even when it is challenging. This doesn’t mean you are a “yes man” all the time, but you are able to understand your child’s frustrations and feelings. In the end, this helps your children feel safe and seen, ultimately leading their kids to be more caring and respectful.

2. Patience: The Power to Stay Calm

Patience is a virtue for a reason and when it comes to motherhood, the ability to stay calm can go a long way. A great mother will learn to manage her frustration and approach situations with a calm mind. It’s not always easy, but patience is important. It shows children that they can handle hard situations with grace and it helps build stronger relationships within the family.

3. Resilience: Facing Challenges with Strength

Life, especially as a parent, will throw you plenty of curveballs. Moms have to be resilient and overcome setbacks. This sets a good example for your kids that they can overcome hard things too. Great mothers will be able to instill the value of perseverance and adaptability in their children. Overall, being resilient will provide your kids with a sense of courage and independence, preparing them to face their own obstacles.

4. Unconditional Love: The Core of Connection

Every mother should show their children unconditional love. This lets them know that they are valued no matter what. At their best and at their worst, they know that their mother is there for them. Unconditional love is at the core of a nurturing family, which helps foster high self-esteem and resilience.

5. Encouragement: Fueling Growth and Confidence

Telling your children that you believe in them will empower them to believe in themselves. Celebrating their achievements, offering support, and finding ways to be encouraging are all signs of a great mother. This trait teaches kids that their efforts matter and it will motivate them to always try their best. It can be a powerful tool for instilling confidence and resilience in your children.

6. Consistency: Building Trust Through Stability

Good moms are consistent. Children will feel more secure and better understand boundaries when you are consistent as a parent. Great mothers will create routines, set expectations, and be able to provide their kids with a sense of stability. When a mother does this, her children will always know what to expect from her and they’ll always trust that she’ll be there. It helps build a trustful and respectful relationship.

7. Humor: Embracing Joy in Everyday Life

Sometimes you’ve just got to laugh. A great mom will know how to find joy and humor in the little moments. This can help turn stressful moments into memories filled with laughter. For example, your child might have done something not-so-great, but it’s not the end of the world (think poured juice over their head). By embracing laughter in that moment, you can teach your child not to take life too seriously. Humor is also a great way to bond with children. A great mother will know that a good laugh can heal, uplift, and bring everyone together.

8. Selflessness: Putting Family First

Selflessness is another trait of a good mother. She will prioritize her family’s needs while still achieving a balance with her own well-being. She won’t put her kids above herself to the point of exhaustion, but their needs and happiness are at the forefront. Having this trait teaches kids the value of empathy and caring for others. By putting family first, a mother builds a home filled with love and sacrifice.

The Art of Great Motherhood

Motherhood truly is an art. Great mothers are made, not born. These traits are often things that come along with being a mom, they’re not necessarily things you were born with. Each of these things can help guide mothers in raising their children and leave a lasting impression on their kids for years to come. Embracing these qualities that make you a great mother can provide a lifelong inspiration to your children.

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1. You Have Patience and Resilience

Adopting a child requires a lot of patience. There is a significant waiting period when you are going through the application process. Not to mention, once you have adopted a child, there is a long-term journey of bonding and building trust with the child. Oftentimes, children in adoption situations come from complex backgrounds. They might need time to adjust and it requires a lot of understanding and patience from their adoptive parents. If you think you can give your time, energy, and understanding to the child, adoption could be a meaningful journey for you.

2. You’re Emotionally Ready to Give Unconditional Love

Adoption requires unconditional love for a child that isn’t biologically yours. You have to be emotionally prepared to love them. Many kids will need reassurance that their new family will love them no matter what. You should be prepared to be a source of stability and comfort for them. More than that, you need to show consistent love. Having this trait is a sign of a parent that is ready to adopt.

3. You Can Provide Stability and Routine

Kids in adoption situations thrive on routine and structure. They often come from homes where this wasn’t the norm. So, consistency in your home will make them feel safe. They’ll know what to expect every day, making it easier for them to adjust to their new home. It will also help foster a secure environment for them where they feel like they can relax. If your life is steady and you’re able to keep a consistent schedule, that’s a great indicator of readiness for adoption.

4. You’re Ready to Embrace a Child’s Unique Background

It’s important for adoptive parents to embrace a child’s history, culture, and experiences. Oftentimes, adopted children come from different backgrounds. Because of this, it is important for parents to be open-minded and respectful. They should also be willing to celebrate the child’s heritage and the diversity they bring to the family. This will show them that you value who they are. Finding yourself excited about honoring and learning about a child’s background means you are in a good place to consider adoption.

5. You Have a Strong Support Network

Parenting can be intense and adoption can prove to be difficult at times as well. Having a solid network of friends and family can make a huge difference. Being able to lean on other people can help you stay positive and motivated throughout your parenting journey. Additionally, your circle of friends and family can be a valuable part of your child’s life.

6. You’re Financially Prepared for the Responsibility

Raising a child involves a lot of financial commitments. When you are adopting, you have to factor in adoption costs, healthcare, education, and the day-to-day expenses of having a child. Being financially stable is essential. This will allow you to focus on your kid’s emotional and developmental needs rather than stressing about money. More than that, it also lets you fully engage in creating a nurturing environment for your new family member.

7. You’re Open to Learning and Growing

Becoming an adoptive parent requires a lot of learning and personal growth. Parents should be willing to seek guidance and attend workshops to discover the best ways to offer their child support. Being willing to grow as a person will help you adapt to their needs. Having this willingness may mean that adoption is a great fit for you.

8. You’re Committed to Long-Term Bonding and Attachment

You have to be committed to bonding with your child. Sometimes, this takes time and effort. You need to be fully committed to the long-term journey of developing an attachment to your child. While trust might develop more gradually, it’s important to allow the child space to open up when they feel comfortable. A dedication to fostering a secure bond can make a profound impact on the child’s sense of family and belonging.

Trust Yourself on the Adoption Journey

Adoption is an incredible thing. However, there are some traits you need to have for adoption to go well. Recognizing these qualities in yourself might be a good indication that you’re ready to take the leap and adopt. Remember, it’s not about being perfect. Being a good adoptive parent is more about being present, patient, and dedicated.

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1. It’s Okay If Everything Doesn’t Go as Planned

Throw your plans out the window when you have kids. Seriously! It’s okay to plan a day out, but remember that it’s also okay if things don’t go as planned. Your kids have their own agendas, moods, and personalities that can turn things upside down. Learning to adapt on the fly is key and letting go of the need for everything to be perfect can make parenting more enjoyable overall.

2. Kids Learn More from What You Do Than What You Say

Your children are like sponges. They are constantly watching you, even when you don’t realize it. As a result, they pick up your habits, language, and other behaviors. You can try to tell them the right way to do things all day long, but unless you are setting an example with how you live/do things, it won’t sink in. If you want them to be kind and responsible, you have to model those behaviors yourself.

3. Finding Time for Yourself Is Essential, Not Selfish

It’s not selfish to set time aside for yourself as a parent. In fact, it is essential to being a good parent. You need to take a few moments every day to recharge. While it’s easy to feel guilty about taking this time, it allows you to give your best self to your kids. Whether you sit down and read a book or take a walk alone, these small acts of self-care will add up over time. Additionally, prioritizing yourself sets a healthy example for your kids.

4. Patience Isn’t Just a Virtue

Having kids will test your patience like nothing else. Children can be demanding and they’ll often push limits every chance they get. Being able to stay calm in stressful situations will make a difference in your relationship with your kids. Embracing a more patient mindset will help your parenting journey be more enjoyable.

5. Each Child Is Unique, and That’s a Beautiful Thing

No child is the same. In today’s day and age, it is easy to compare your children to others. However, every kid is going to progress at their own rate and they each have their own personality. Your child’s uniqueness is what makes them who they are. Embracing this will allow them to grow in a healthy, supportive environment. It will also help you build a stronger bond.

6. You’ll Worry About Them Every Day

When I had my first child I was overrun with anxiety about her. As she slept, I was constantly watching the monitor, worrying about if she was okay. Now, when she goes somewhere without me, I worry about whether or not she’s okay, if she’s making friends, etc. You have to accept that worrying is normal, but you also need to find a balance between being involved and letting go. While the worry never completely goes away, you become better at handling it.

7. Cherish Every Stage, Because They Grow Up Fast

I wish more people told me how much I needed to just live in the moment with my kids. In the blink of an eye, they went from needing me for everything to being more independent. Eventually, I’ll be seeing them off to college and possibly even attending their weddings. So, take all the photos you want, make silly memories, and appreciate every small moment.

Embracing the Parenting Journey

Overall, it is essential to embrace your parenting journey, whatever that might look like for you. You’ll learn lessons, find joy in simple things, and face challenges you never expected. Doing all of this and loving your children through it all will make you a better parent. Sometimes I wish I had known some of these things sooner, but remember, there is no perfect way to be a parent. There is just the way that works best for you and your kids.

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1. Their Struggles with Peer Pressure

Peer pressure can be a huge problem for kids. They face this challenge in a variety of forms. Your kids might feel pressure to fit in and be pushed to try things they might not fully understand or agree with. Admitting this to their parents can be scary because they are afraid of how you will react. Peer pressure can already have an impact on their self-esteem and mental health. So, it’s important to provide a supportive environment and discuss these pressures without reprimand.

2. Their Academic or Extracurricular Stress

As a kid, I knew I felt a lot of stress and pressure coming from academics. There was a constant need to perform my best and if I didn’t do great, I was afraid to talk about it with my parents. Your children might be feeling overwhelmed with the pressure to excel at school, especially if they sense high expectations coming from you. Provide them with space for open conversations about the pressures at school and any challenges they are facing. This can make them feel safe talking about it with you.

3. Feelings of Insecurity About Their Appearance

Children go through a lot of changes and they are frequently exposed to unrealistic beauty standards on social media, television, etc. It’s not uncommon for kids to feel insecure, but it’s hard for them to talk to their parents about it. They often fear you won’t understand or that you’ll brush it off. Talking to them about the importance of self-worth beyond their appearance is important. Building self-confidence starts at home.

4. Their Concerns About Your Approval

There is no doubt that most children want the approval of their parents. This will lead them to keep things hidden if they think you’ll react poorly. In the end, it may make them avoid sharing their interests, opinions, or choices with you. This might be the case even if they are harmless or potentially even beneficial to their growth. It’s important for you to assure your children that their individuality is something you cherish about them.

5. Feelings of Loneliness or Isolation

Everyone feels lonely from time to time, even kids. They might feel embarrassed to admit it, thinking that it makes them seem unlikable or that they’ll be blamed for it. Children don’t want to be seen as different or antisocial, so they may avoid sharing these feelings with you. Having open discussions about friendship and inclusivity can make them feel more comfortable sharing things with you.

6. Their Fears About the Future

There is a lot of uncertainty about what the future holds for kids. They might be concerned about not being successful or about some upcoming life changes. It’s common for them to avoid sharing these anxieties, thinking that it will add to your worries. Make sure you offer reassurance and remind them that it is totally normal to feel uncertain about the future.

Creating a Safe Space for Open Conversations

Your children aren’t going to be comfortable talking to you about everything all the time. The key is to make sure you are offering the most supportive, safe space for them to come to you with their concerns. Try to encourage regular conversations about their feelings and experiences to help them feel secure about opening up. A supportive and open relationship will not only strengthen your bond but also empower them to tackle life’s challenges with confidence.

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